Have you ever tried to "correct" your husband on an area that could use improvement, or strengthen what may be a weakness of his? Maybe it is encouragement to pray more, read his Bible, or resisting the urge to eat that last piece of cake! How did he respond? Was he receptive, did he brush you off, or just downright became annoyed by your efforts?
As wives, we are by original design a help that is suitable for our husbands and can sanctify our household. The definition of “minister” in the 1828 Noah Webster dictionary breaks it down for us a bit: “To attend and serve; to perform service in any office, sacred or secular. To afford supplies; to give things needful; to supply the means of relief; to relieve.” So to minister simply means TO SERVE. Even though our intentions may be great our efforts to minister may come across as untimely, judgmental, or even nagging. So here's a few ways that may help:
1. Pray with him, and for him
Nothing is too hard for God. We must seek Him first because He most certainly has the answers and knowledge of how to get through to him. God will show you when to speak up, or when to "let go & let God". By praying with your spouse you guys can talk to God as a couple about the things you may struggle with; which can reduce the chances of anyone feeling judged.
2. Be an example
Sometimes it is better to lead by example. 1 Timothy 4:12 says "don't let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, and in purity." People are much less likely to follow a hypocrite.
3. Encourage him
Witness to him through his love language! Does your husband feel lifted by words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, or physical touch? You can encourage him to seek God more in a way that will get through to him whether it is sitting down to read the word together, leaving positive scriptures/ sticky notes, or watching inspirational messages together.
No matter the route you choose, God will bless your efforts in encouraging your husband to be a better man... and he will thank you for it in the long run!